In the summer of 2014 I discovered go. I played my first game in real life against my wife, for whom it was also her first go game ever; it was an amazing experience and we both got a small glimpse of the majesty and depth of the game. I can’t even remember who won. I was so taken by the game that I read up on strategies, played many games against AI / bots, and spent much of my idle time considering various positions, playing against myself, etc. By the time my wife and I had time to play our second game a few days later, I was noticeably stronger and took an early lead; she did not have much fun with the game after that (and it was only our 2nd game together).
I tried to introduce the game to my friends that year as well, but no one wanted to play more than a couple games against me; I wasn’t even very good (maybe 23k at that time). I thought, how great it is that go naturally allows for handicaps, but neither my wife nor my friends would ever take a handicap (one of my friends even mentioned that his father told him never to play a game with a handicap). There is also a strong aversion to the idea of resignation in my culture (United States), so whenever I did get to play a friend IRL, it ended up being boring for both players. It was usually this long drawn-out battle where I would be ahead, and my opponent, who refused a handicap, would suffer through to the end. Then if I ever suggested playing the game again, I would get a response along the lines of, “Sure, but I know you’re going to win. Want to watch something on Netflix instead?”
During the Winter of 2014/2015 I started a go club in my city of roughly 60,000 people which was moderately successful at the beginning. I met some other players, and some were several stones stronger than me. Unfortunately, no one attended more than a few meetings. By the summer of 2015 I was the only one going each week, and I ended up just reading a book, waiting for opponents who would never arrive. Needless to say, my go club soon ceased to exist.
Now, in 2016, if I want to play a game against another person, I must play online. I am very grateful that servers like OGS exist, and I truly appreciate the opponents I get to play online. However, I am left feeling a little disappointed in myself because this great board game I discovered can now only be experienced like a video game, by sitting in front of a screen. One of my part-time jobs is web-based, so I already feel like I’m spending too much time on the computer. Have you had similar or different experiences trying to play go IRL? Your empathy, stories, and suggestions are much appreciated.