I don’t know if this will help, but I wrote this 19x19 for Beginners series article about playing a balanced Opening:
If someone starts contact-fighting early, and there are still big chunks of corner and edge potential sitting there for the taking, maybe use some of the techniques / focus-on-Opening-priorities stuff to grab an early lead, and then the contact fighting will not be so stressful?
Also, something I point out in the article is that approaching your opponent’s corner is a perfectly normal / regular thing for someone to do once all 4 corners have been claimed. I understand that approaching a corner doesn’t always mean contact fighting, but just something to consider.
Good luck!