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A) You expressed the exact same mindset earlier, so how do you justify finding find your own behaviour frustrating, when exhibited by other people?
B) Why would you want to change their opinions/beliefs? Are you try to befriend people or preach to them? Friends and pulpit positions are mutually exclusive.

If you want some general advice on the whole “having friends” thing, in my personal experience the following things matters:
A) Being earnest and respecting and liking each other for what you are (“a friend is someone that knows everything about you and still likes you”)
B) Sharing time and experiences together (which is why online friendships and real life friendships after the age of 25 are more fickle)
C) Helping each other without keeping tabs on who helped who the most.

Do notice that having the same religious and political beliefs does not make my list at all… if they disagree with you that is actually even better. That is far more useful than having a mirror of yourself fueling an echo chamber.

My Dad doesn’t think highly of a lot of people.

No old person does :stuck_out_tongue:

That sounds really nice and all, but I want to talk to people about life. Get to know someone. Not just talk and interact. I don’t see that as a valuable way to spend my time.

You do realise that in order to get to a point where people will talk with you about life (their own or in general the important things in it), you have to “talk and interact” with them first, a lot, right? :slight_smile:

A person that straight away talks about such issues is either lying or has a personality that will blurt ANYTHING out without any filter. Either way, not a person to talk about life, unless you want everyone to know what you confided in them.

Honestly I don’t think the USA is what it stood for anymore.

Oh, I am dying to ask “which is?”
I cannot wait for the answer to that :smiley:

I think COVID is a dumb hoax fabricated by the government (oh wait and Bill Gates).

I am no longer a teenager, but I still retain my bad sense of humor from that time, so there:

:stuck_out_tongue:

Here we go again with the “Marxism” :smiley:
You do realise that Karl Marx actually wrote articles in newspapers about that topic, in defense of freedom of press/speech, right?
https://www.amazon.com/Karl-Freedom-Press-Censorship-Library/dp/007048077X

Meanwhile in the “capitalist” part or our reality:

“Feeling maligned by the media, Donald Trump is threatening to weaken First Amendment protections for reporters if he were president and make it easier for him to sue them.”

Oops. :innocent:
Consider this last segment as a “simply showing people your information” … I did not really present any personal opinion on that matter. Just facts … now you two have some thinking to do on your own. :wink:

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It’s also funny how “socialist” countries in Northwest Europe seem to have more Press Freedom than the more conservative countries in Eastern Europe.

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Be careful not to conflate “people that are close-minded” with “people I disagree with.” If you don’t converse with anyone you disagree with about major issues then you’re just building yourself an echo chamber. People aren’t close-minded just because they disagree with you about issues like COVID, or are unwilling to change their views to match yours about the issue.

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From what I have read so far I think your father has had a lot of bad experiences and has shared his point of view with you. Maybe you too have had them, but I think it depends on your social bubble whether people are closed minded or not.

If you are just looking for a friend you can search for blogs or forums (like this) about your hobbies, but if you want to talk to open-minded people try be open-minded yourself and do something new, so your social bubble changes and you meet different people.

And you can write to a pen pal.

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