In casual real-life games Iâve played on a physical board, there is a pretty clear difference. In normal friendly and casual games, casual enough to where Iâm chatting with my opponent or other people as we play, for games that go to scoring, a typical ending of the game might go like like:
âOkay, looks like thatâs just about it, I donât see anything left, so I passâ.
âYep, I pass tooâ
and then we count.
or this kind of thing might happen:
âOkay, looks like thatâs just about it, I donât see anything left, so I passâ.
âWhat about this?â (plays at a potential weak point inside the other personâs area, the second move in a row by this player because the first player just passed).
âI think I can just defend like thisâ (responds)
âAh, right, okay I pass tooâ.
Not uncommonly the âpassâ moves are omitted in highly casual settings, but when they are, there is usually verbal reference to the game being done (i.e. literally no useful moves left) and that both sides are explicitly agreeing that this is the case:
âI donât see anything left to play, shall we count?â
âYepâ
(In this case, the online server equivalent can only be to explicitly pass, of course, since the server isnât going to understand chat by the players about there being no endgame moves left)
Whereas in case of a player having lost and ending the game early, in a casual chatty game it might happen like this:
âThat fight really didnât go well for me, can we stop here?â
âSureâ
or
âHuh, that fight really didnât go well for me, can we stop here and review how that happened?â
âSureâ
And even in highly casual settings, in the clubs Iâve been in, explicitly using the word âresignâ is not uncommon too:
âI resign. I really didnât expect that group to die there!â
(In all of the above cases, the online server equivalent would of course be for the player who acknowledges they lost and who is initiating the early stopping of the game, to click the resign button).
Comparing the two kinds of cases above, scoring vs resignation, even in the implicit cases, there still isnât much overlap in final things one would say and confirm with the opponent between scoring vs resignation. This is driven by the fact that game ending for scoring is necessarily by mutual agreement of there being no useful moves left⌠whereas game ending by resignation is unilateral and asking the other side if itâs okay to stop the game early is more a matter of politeness rather than it actually being up to them to agree if the game is over.
Are you saying that in your social group, players often mix up these two kinds of ways of ending the game, or sometimes even mutually pass in order to indicate resignation? That would certainly be a very confusing norm to have!