In casual real-life games Iāve played on a physical board, there is a pretty clear difference. In normal friendly and casual games, casual enough to where Iām chatting with my opponent or other people as we play, for games that go to scoring, a typical ending of the game might go like like:
āOkay, looks like thatās just about it, I donāt see anything left, so I passā.
āYep, I pass tooā
and then we count.
or this kind of thing might happen:
āOkay, looks like thatās just about it, I donāt see anything left, so I passā.
āWhat about this?ā (plays at a potential weak point inside the other personās area, the second move in a row by this player because the first player just passed).
āI think I can just defend like thisā (responds)
āAh, right, okay I pass tooā.
Not uncommonly the āpassā moves are omitted in highly casual settings, but when they are, there is usually verbal reference to the game being done (i.e. literally no useful moves left) and that both sides are explicitly agreeing that this is the case:
āI donāt see anything left to play, shall we count?ā
āYepā
(In this case, the online server equivalent can only be to explicitly pass, of course, since the server isnāt going to understand chat by the players about there being no endgame moves left)
Whereas in case of a player having lost and ending the game early, in a casual chatty game it might happen like this:
āThat fight really didnāt go well for me, can we stop here?ā
āSureā
or
āHuh, that fight really didnāt go well for me, can we stop here and review how that happened?ā
āSureā
And even in highly casual settings, in the clubs Iāve been in, explicitly using the word āresignā is not uncommon too:
āI resign. I really didnāt expect that group to die there!ā
(In all of the above cases, the online server equivalent would of course be for the player who acknowledges they lost and who is initiating the early stopping of the game, to click the resign button).
Comparing the two kinds of cases above, scoring vs resignation, even in the implicit cases, there still isnāt much overlap in final things one would say and confirm with the opponent between scoring vs resignation. This is driven by the fact that game ending for scoring is necessarily by mutual agreement of there being no useful moves leftā¦ whereas game ending by resignation is unilateral and asking the other side if itās okay to stop the game early is more a matter of politeness rather than it actually being up to them to agree if the game is over.
Are you saying that in your social group, players often mix up these two kinds of ways of ending the game, or sometimes even mutually pass in order to indicate resignation? That would certainly be a very confusing norm to have!