From Cho Hunhyun’s (former world champion) autobiography - “Life works in unpredictable ways. One can start out with nothing, but ends up with everything the next day. If one succumbs to grief and despair, the game ends there. But the game continues as long as one has the will to stay in it.” Also, “Never give up too early. I held on until I reached the next round of the game and the next . . . not because I was craving to win, but because there was a light at the end of the tunnel.”
Look at your motivations for wanting to continue. If it is because you’re feeling greedy, vengeful, and feeling bad, then you have already lost the internal game. If it is because you believe you can win, play on. Especially in an even game. If your opponents get frustrated then they don’t understand what they signed up for. When we play we agree to play. That’s it. Full stop. Whatever happens on the board. Whoever your opponent. We agree on the rules of engagement, the time settings, to abide by the community, and to do our best.
Playing online is humbling. There are so many . . . Interesting characters. I have had people insult me in the chat the entire game. It is difficult, and I usually lose my cool. What happens is I stop playing MY game, and start playing THEIR game. When I start playing their game I have lost. Likewise, if you feel like you have won, but the score hasn’t been counted, and your opponent hasn’t resigned you haven’t won. I have lost so many games because I think that I am winning. If you think you can win, play.
All that being said, it is nice to be nice and respectful. Just throwing stones into a corner to see what happens is a little dirty. Yes we should all do more corner tsumego. It is still really underhanded to do that in byo-yomi. How we win, and being a good sportsperson is also important. As others have said, if you are playing with someone five stones above your rank and hoping to catch them off guard with a SnapBack or something they should be able to see, then that is just disrespectful. If I won like that I wouldn’t feel well.
I resign when I feel as though I have lost, either mentally or visibly on the board. Don’t throw your stones in too soon. Look around the board. Think about your options. Check in with your feelings. Do you WANT to keep playing this game? If you can see a way forward, plow on! Only playing will tell if you were right. Put your whole self into it. Really try. This is life and death!
Also, losing is not so bad. Played with someone of your same rank, or close in rank with the proper handicap you should win 50% of your games. That is a lot of losses. It is always helpful to practice losing.