Searching for 7-12 kyu I'm 15 kyu

Teaching Teaching games
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First of all I want to find friendship more than a teacher, acquaintance more than a close friend. Someone to respect for a season of learning go.

I am a struggling ddk who needs help improving my rank. I am happy about the conflicts in my games. I know it can be deeper. I did not use to think others were respecting my time when I’d wait a minute at best to move. I have learned by grace and recently shifted to a change. I intentionally want to take my time and develop. I can not do that with online matches I need a better rival than me. I am insomniac in ways. I am posting at 4:50 a m. est. If that lets you see anything about my schedule. I like to play go late. I only have a phone to use at my disposal so reviews will need to be led by you unless your open to voice communication and open dialogue.

That said I am a kind and gentle person I would prefer a male rival. Any nation is okay. As long as you can speak in the language I’m writing in. Yes it’s American. Lol jokes have a pleasant day.

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You might have better luck finding someone to play with as a friend if you tried reaching out to different parts of the go community, and indeed, by being a tad more specific about what you are looking for, what rank you are, what your weaknesses are, and what you actually want, without being quite vague about it.

Understandably, you must have been tired writing this post, but specificity really does help a lot.

Incidentally, you may also have better luck learning if you ask for reviews of your games. Finding a true rival, a person with which you can sharpen yourself, as they indeed sharpen themselves, so you both are able to reach new heights, is a rare thing, and hard to find, despite it being so easy to type and ask.

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Yeah I’m not a specific person that seems to be something I’m out of touch with. Basically I need to respect time evaluate with the time given. My weakness would be cut abuse. I don’t know how to counter or defend an abusive cut machine. Sometimes I can handle the cut but it’s not always. Anyways I’ll comment leave it here and get rid of the post. I have tried finding irl people but nobody jives with the game. It would be nice to find a friend which is why I requested more of a seasonal friendship. This response brings one opponent in mind I’ll message them.

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Could you make the title a bit more descriptive? And you can move the category after the fact.

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I’m surprised. How does it matter?

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Edit note: you change your title. Do you know you can change the category instead (by editing the title, little pen near it)?

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Well I thought I gave enough information and it was not detailed but that’s the mystery I got no effective attention I’m sure if I took advice easier and became more in depth with what I believe is my play style then perhaps I get what I’m looking for but I’m your opponent I’m looking for a rival who wants to contend in the realm of patience if anyone in the ranks 7-12 kyu are open to battling a fallen ranked 15 khu for the sake of patience and improvement get at me. Also my preference for women is spiritual I respect their ability to perceive routes I can not find but I hold that position in life for my future wife. So I want someone I can become acquainted with and not be tried by my flesh because of that voice sounds hot

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Btw what category should I choose?

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TBH I didn’t think “Teaching games” was that bad (at least not as bad as this title :laughing:). Other options might include “Go classifieds” or “General chat”, but I don’t see them as much better fits. Just try to summarize your post well in the title and people will see it.

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Yes I had the title as searching for 7 kyu to 12 kyu. Yet my first responder kinda gave me a response I wasn’t expecting. Telling me I should have said this or that. I thought I explained enough he said wrong topic so I am just trying to end the post. Yet still if someone sees this and is close enough to my rank let’s attempt a few battles to try and sharpen each other. Ha ha. To Lord spoon I appreciate all your words it’s weight at the end of the message possibly discouraged my pursuits I take your appreciation for my request very valuable. I did not feel it’s impact until 2nd read.

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Insomnia is hard on understanding. Your right I wrote this thing out twice erased it once so my brain was not adjusted for the value you shed to me. I definitely misunderstood your message brother!

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That’s quite alright. I frequently struggle with insomnia. I’ve not slept well for days at this point… and indeed, with as much experience with insomnia as I have, you learn to find workarounds XD

That said… I have a few things to say here with regard to your follow-up responses to others.

  1. You don’t have a style of Go. this isn’t me having an unnecessary dig at you… It’s a fact. Style doesn’t really come into play until you know enough about the game to make informed decisions. Even at 5kyu OGS and 1kyu Fox, I can assure you this is the case for me. Yes, there are moves i prefer to play that get a certain result that im more comfortable with because i know the variations that spring forth from that choice… and in some reguards that could be considered a level of informed choice… but the fact of the matter is, we cannot choose a style to play, and or, play a particular style, because we simply dont know enough about Go to make that kind of decision. There is also the debate of Style vs optimally correct choices, and AI being the supposed death of style, with it being the most powerful entity that can play/ process Go.
  2. Gender shouldn’t be a deciding factor on who is able to be a friend, rival or teacher. One should assess their ability to fulfil that role independent of their gender, and independent of one’s own thoughts about what their “preferred” gender is for a partner. It baffles me, even in this day and age, that we have to have this conversation. Women are more than their sum parts, and indeed can fulfil many roles independent of romantic partnerships, and as you said, finding routes.
  3. You would do well to kill off any preconceived ideas you have of the above two topics, and indeed kill the ego that forces you to make decisions that are contrary to your own development as a person, and indeed as a Go player…they are related. WE spend our whole lives, some of us, holding onto ideas and perceptions about ourselves, the people around us, and the world around us, that do only harm to ourselves and all the things we hold important in our lives. Learning to let go and make decisions that are right, independent of these preconceptions, is what truly allows us to grow as people, as we broaden our minds, and our understanding of the world… and more importantly, of ourselves too. This is easier said than done, and I am certainly no life coach, qualified to assist with such a project. And frankly, I’m enough of a mess of a person that my hands are quite full.

Take care of yourself… get some sleep when you can. And if you ever need any go-related help, I’m more than happy to lend a hand.

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What is your Go playing style?
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At a minimum, it can be wise to seek (non-romantic) relationships with the same gender. What you say here runs a dangerous risk of encouraging someone to put themselves in a situation where they might be tempted

More strongly, the older shall teach the younger, there are at least some situations where gender absolutely matters, though that is in reference to far more important topics than Go and is only meant to establish prima facie reasonableness, not to apply strictly or probably at all

Finally, freedom of association. Regardless of reason, people have the right to associate with whoever they choose

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People do indeed have the right to associate with whomever they choose, and for whatever reason… even if I don’t like that reason.

I am however, just as free to call out any reasoning I believe to be wrong, be it factually or morally, or both.

Yes, gender can matter. And there are dynamics in which there is an imbalance of power. However, temptation…isn’t a good reason to avoid the other gender… it puts the burden of blame on the other party for simply existing, when the real burden of that belongs to the person being “tempted”, and whatever self control or lack thereof they may have.

The idea of temptation alone being enough to dissuade anyone, objectifies the other person before any meaningful interaction can even happen…and immediately devalues any meaningful contribution they may have had to give.

The question then becomes…would you yourself like it, if you and everyone if your gender identity were precluded from conversation, meaningful interactions, and the chance to form friendships, simply because of some uncontrollable and completely arbitrary characteristic, that doesn’t actually change the value of what you can bring to the table?

As such, I absolutely stand by what I said. Though I recognise there are certainly elements to what you said that I have to agree with.

That said…im also not prepared to continue this particular topic of discussion. I’ve said what I said, and this probably isn’t the pace for this kind of debate…nor do I have a particular interest in further explaining my stance.

That said, I do appreciate the response, and the chance to reflect more deeply on what I have said.

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I’m 10-12k, I play only correspondence games with a 3 day per move timer or longer. So a single game typically takes months.

I play as you said, as a cutting machine. I will ambitiously invade and cut everything in sight, and then later try to make it work. It is not always a winning strategy but it’s definitely fun (for me).

I occasionally write some remarks during or after the game and I’m willing to answer questions.

However, I don’t play live games and I don’t do voice chat. If that sounds good to you, send me a game request. If not, no problem and good luck on your quest.

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