I seem to recall fairly extensive discussions about whether or not you can tell a misclick or not. Maybe here:
I’ve not read back over all this but the point is that the position of the intended move (if known, as uberdude points out) doesn’t really say anything about whether an undo was for misclick reasons or not.
So I would suggest you either accept requests and assume good faith or refuse them as is your right and don’t worry too much about your opponent’s intentions.
This is perfectly normal. White is under no obligation to accept an undo.
I see what you mean though - in this scenario, white learned more from black than current undo practice, where black doesn’t say what the intended move was.
This discussion, like all undo discussion, shows how fraught the idea of ‘undo’ is. Life would be easier without it…
Can’t agree with your conclusion. Think it works fine as is, and a great many people would prefer a misclick not ruin an otherwise enjoyable game. As you said, users are free to ignore undo requests if they do not desire to grant them.